So it’s Monday, and you don’t feel relaxed. What happened? Maybe you even “stayed home and did nothing,” and yet you didn’t really replenish your energy. Well, today I’ll share a little guidance that will hopefully give you a booster shot to help you truly rest the next time you get a chance.
“Oh, that’s just what I’m like”
Have you ever heard you or a coworker say the following?
- “Oh, geez. I’m such an idiot.”
- “Don’t mind me, I’m just a pessimist.”
- “Hah, I guess my perfectionism is showing today.”
- “I could never present at a meeting, I’m too antisocial.”
Beware of thoughts like this. I’ve heard it said that “we become the stories that we say about ourselves.” So try this:
Wait, what? You want me to scream on purpose? Yes. And I promise this won’t lead to the Human Resources department knocking down your door. In fact, it might even help prevent negative interactions with your peers.
Try the following surprising advice to get truly calm.
Have you ever felt your body tense up as a result of a tough moment at work or during an anxiety-filled conversation with a family member? Odds are the answer is “yes” since you’re a human being. I have felt that way, and it wasn’t until I experienced a painful injury at work and went to physical therapy that I learned to slow down and listen to my body. I’ll share a glimpse into my journey with work-related injuries and hopefully you’ll learn enough to avoid the pain I had recover from.
Are you convinced that you’ll only be happy once you finally get that promotion? If so, maybe you’re actually trapped by your goal. I’ll share my own experiences and tips on how I learned to be happy at whatever rung of the ladder I’m currently on. Because happiness is the goal, right?
I can’t solve this one, and I think I need your help. So, a developer was responding to a code review comment I made and they simply asked me, “why would I do that?” I gave my standard, dusty answer: “because you have to code defensively— you don’t know what the future holds.” But I suddenly realized… am I proliferating a fear of the future? How could I code fearfully when I run CubicleBuddha.com where I blog so often about living happily in the present? I’ll share the specific code example with you. I’m hoping to hear from the community whether my solution is “coding in the moment” or if I am actually bowing down to the fear.
You’ve got some anxiety about a big project. You feel nervous at a large conference. Your heart is beating as an intense meeting approaches. Wouldn’t it be great to feel calm and happy even in these understandably intense times? How do you find that moment of peace within a hectic world and a busy job? Lucky for you– it’s as simple as focusing on your breath. We’ll walk you through the scientific basis of mindful breathing and a simple process on how to try it.
“If only my coworker would stop chewing so loudly I could concentrate.”
“I’m sorry. I got nothing done because Jimmy wouldn’t stop yelling in his cube.”
These are the types of phrases that come up the most often when asking friends and coworkers what prevents them from being calm and mindful at work. It’s possible that you might not even know that the volume and intensity around you is dragging down your day… but you found your way to this article so it’s clear that some part of you knows that the volume of work is effecting your mood. Don’t worry. We have some practical tips on how to not just “get through it,” but to thrive in the workplace.
We all have reasons for holding onto the past, like that Transformers lunchbox that I couldn’t handle throwing away. I loved it, but the truth is I was never going to use it again. But in the realm of professional software engineering, holding onto anything that isn’t being utilized can wreak havoc on a codebase through unintentional bugs and clutter that hurts maintainability and team moral. This unused code is called “dead code.” But how do we know when code is dead? And worse yet, how do we convince ourselves that it’s finally okay to let go of that lunchbox you’re not using anymore? The following tips will help you to get rid of the hoarding problem.