In lieu of a traditional post today, I thought it would be awesome to turn the table to learn from my wonderful readers. Join in on the fun by visiting The DEVCommunity to talk about what you feel is the best quality a coworker can have: https://dev.to/cubiclebuddha/what-is-the-best-quality-a-developer-can-have-29m5
I made a mistake today. Not the “calculated risk” kind of mistake that we recommend on this blog. I’m talking a plain-old, stupid error. Strangely enough, after a minutes I found myself thinking judgmental thoughts about family, co-workers, and friends about behaviors of theirs that I don’t like. Is that a coincidence? No, it doesn’t take a psychologist to identify that I was project my feels of self-criticism out to others. Great. Now I’m being critical of myself for being critical of others!
So how does a person break out of this blame cycle?
So it’s Monday, and you don’t feel relaxed. What happened? Maybe you even “stayed home and did nothing,” and yet you didn’t really replenish your energy. Well, today I’ll share a little guidance that will hopefully give you a booster shot to help you truly rest the next time you get a chance.
I am so happy to admit to you that I made a mistake.
I thought reaching the goal was the most important thing. “Isn’t that what Scrum is all about?” (I thought). I used to value making sure my team’s completed point values looked good at the end of the sprint. I thought pushing them to produce work would be more helpful so they learned how to commit to a goal. But sometimes that attitude of mine simply encouraged the developers to produce code that either they weren’t personally proud of or that I sure as heck wasn’t happy with when it came to the code review. So what was the value of making it to the goal line if the ball is busted and deflated when it whizzes past?
Keep reading to learn why admitting your mistakes in not only ”okay” but also possibly the most productive thing you can do.
We all know the deal– if you want to lose 20 pounds, start with losing 1 pound. But how do I lose 1 pound? And if you want to become a violinist, start by learning one song. But you think, “how the heck can I motivate myself to start?”
You’re staring at the blank screen and you have no idea what to write. Or maybe you’re staring at a bug in some software you have to fix. Every career has these moments where you have no idea where to start. You’re overwhelmed by the options, and you’ve found yourself firmly in a state of “analysis paralysis.” So how do you get productive when you can’t even begin?
We’ll share a wonderful tip from a surprising place: Hollywood.
“Oh, that’s just what I’m like”
Have you ever heard you or a coworker say the following?
- “Oh, geez. I’m such an idiot.”
- “Don’t mind me, I’m just a pessimist.”
- “Hah, I guess my perfectionism is showing today.”
- “I could never present at a meeting, I’m too antisocial.”
Beware of thoughts like this. I’ve heard it said that “we become the stories that we say about ourselves.” So try this:
“Wow. Look at this code, it looks so nice! And it’s so clear and easy to read!” Clarity and readability are admirable things to aim for, but is it possible that the quest for “perfect” code is preventing you from actually RELEASING real functionality to the user?
Wait, what? You want me to scream on purpose? Yes. And I promise this won’t lead to the Human Resources department knocking down your door. In fact, it might even help prevent negative interactions with your peers.
Try the following surprising advice to get truly calm.
Sometimes you might feel like there’s no recovering. You feel like you’ve broken your relationships with your coworkers or that their perception of you can no longer be changed. After you’ve tried our techniques (like creating quiet in your cubicle, adjusting your work life balance, introducing happy elements, etc.) you might find that you simply have one choice left: Change your job.